Emotional aikido

Many have commented that they don't understand why using aikido in communications can be so effective if we can't ever meet our needs in a confrontation. I agreed with them at first, but now I'm starting to see it in a different light. No goog can come from confronting a confrontationalist, as they are confroting you. The only thing that will be accomplished is that both parties will end up on the defensive, and neither will get their objectives met. However, if we use Aikido communicating, eventually the communication assailant will have to stop "attacking" simply because they are either to frustrated or to exhausted to continue. It is at this point when we can finally voice our needs, and get successful two-way communication, simply because in a confrontation both sides see only a win/lose situation. However, once the moment of extreme emotion is passed, a win/win solution can finally be achieved.