Emotional Bank account

The emotional bank account, one exists with every relationship, Hopefully I carry mainly positives with the relationships that I have. How often do we damage others without thinking about it? Especially in the area of disloyalty to those absent. I once was one of those who often vented behind others backs, however I soon learned that in doing so I lost the respect of all of my friends, I dipped negatively into everyone's accounts, however in more recent years, I have done all I can to drop this habit, and it's interesting to see that now I am much more respected and liked than when I thought I was getting on everyone's good side by always siding to their point of view, attaking everyone else's obvious weaknesses.
I talked to my mother about the emotional bank account over the phone one night, which she was delighted to hear about being an accountant, and was instantly barraged by her many personal experiences in those areas, I guess that's what you get from selective listeners.