Teen Wolf and Empathic listening

http://www.lifehack.org/articles/lifehack/empathic-listening-is-for-everyones-good.html
Here’s the article I found on empathic listening. It’s interesting to not that the first few steps to gaining empathic listening are figuring out our own selves, so we can filter out what we think, what we want, and better understand the person. It also talks about looking for win/win solutions. How often in our communications to we seek only our own agenda without considering the needs of the other person? So often we can come up with solutions that let both parties win.
I had another insight watching that video clip from Teen Wolf. It reminded me of how the general public tries to solve your problems. When I was a teenager, my father died of a sudden heart attack, and it sickened me how everyone seemed to just want me to feel better about it. No one seemed to reach out and try to understand. Sure I had tons of people telling me “I know what you’re going through. If you ever need to talk I’m here.” So many of them thought they knew the solutions to the problem, before really understanding the problem, just like the coach. Sadly, although everyone wanted me to talk to them, no one wanted to listen, and I withdrew inside myself. It was a very dark time in my life. On the outside I was still all smiles, laughing and joking, but it was hollow, and no one seemed to care because they all just wanted to see me happy. How thankful I am for two people, an old wise English teacher and a very dear friend, who entered my life finally willing to just listen, to just let me open up, and finally I was able to release that column “B” that had been building inside of me for years. That is the power of empathic listening, it saved me years of hurt and emptiness.